I don't make New Year's resolutions. I learned a long time ago it's futile, so I just don't set myself up to fail.
Most resolutions have to do with breaking a bad habit: stop smoking, eat less fast food, don't be a couch potato, reduce spending, quit drinking, stop swearing, don't be so unorganized, and worry less to name a few.
Thing is, it's tough to break habits, especially bad ones since they're often crutches. It takes a lot of focus and inner strength. It also helps to have supportive friends and family to keep you on the straight and narrow and not steer you in the wrong direction.
I have a support system, but I lack focus for things I don't want to do. I know this about myself, so I know better than to make a resolution I know I won't keep. Also, it would make me feel guilty and depressed to fail, compounding the problem.
Another thing I've realized about myself is that I have the capacity for finding the silver lining in every dark cloud, whether it's for me or someone else.
So recently, when I saw a post on a social media site that suggested writing a positive thought daily on a slip of paper and putting it in a jar, I decided that's what I needed to do to start the new year instead of resolving to do something I'll never actually do. The idea is to dump the jar at the end of the year and relive those enjoyable moments as a reminder of how fortunate you are.
See Wednesday's Times Sentinel for the full story.