Zionsville Times Sentinel

September 26, 2012

There is help for parents out there

By Jamie Jorczak/Times Sentinel columnist
CNHI

— Finding oneself suddenly attached to another human being all day, every day, is surprisingly isolating and lonely.

A few months after the births of my firstborns in 2006, I returned to work willingly, eager to get a break from the non-stop feedings, diapering, holding, crying babies, crying mommy, and near-seclusion from the outside world.

But in the months that followed, I missed my little ones more and more. One evening, I cried uncontrollably in a meeting with a consultant who had just revealed my schedule for the next two months would allow for roughly 10 waking hours per week with my babies.

I resigned the next day. I can recall the flood of relief; the colossal weight off my shoulders. I have never regretted that decision.

I was prepared to sacrifice my professional life in order to be the mother I wanted to be. What I didn’t see coming was the evaporation of my social life and the growing sense that I was lost in the wilderness of childrearing.

Caring for toddler twins around the clock in a small town where I had never met other mothers of young children, and where I was a solid half-hour drive from my old network of Statehouse friends, it was difficult to satisfy the part of myself that loves to be around people. Adult people.

See Wednesday’s Times Sentinel for the full story.